家庭暴力

Dating Violence and 家庭暴力 (also known as Intimate Partner Violence or Relationship Violence) occurs when there is abuse in a relationship. 这不仅仅是 身体虐待. It also includes other abusive and controlling behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over the other partner, such as:

• 情感和言语虐待 - insulting and calling 一个合作伙伴 names, constantly criticizing, isolating 一个合作伙伴 from family and friends, monitoring 一个合作伙伴's activities, humiliating 一个合作伙伴, threatening 一个合作伙伴, damaging 一个合作伙伴's belongings, blaming 一个合作伙伴 for the abusive behavior, or gaslighting 一个合作伙伴 by pretending not to understand, questioning facts, and denying statements or actions.
• 金融滥用 -用金钱控制合伙人.
• 性虐待 - forcing 一个合作伙伴 to engage in non-consensual sexual activity.
• 数字滥用 - using technology and the internet to bully, harass, stalk, intimidate, or control 一个合作伙伴.

滥用 can occur at any stage of a relationship. 

People of all ages, races, genders, sexuality, religion, education level, or income level can be victims or perpetrators of abuse.

来源: 全国家庭暴力热线

• 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men in the US will experience rape, physical violence and/or 被亲密伴侣跟踪.
• 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men in the US have been the victim of severe physical violence by an 一生的亲密伴侣.
• Almost half of all people in the US have experienced psychological aggression by an 一生的亲密伴侣.
• 81% of women and 35% of men who experienced rape, stalking, or physical violence from an intimate partner reported significant impacts like injuries or symptoms of post-traumatic 应激障碍(PTSD).
• 12 million people per year are affected by intimate partner violence - that's an average 每分钟24个人.
• 1 in 10 high school students have experienced physical violence from 一个合作伙伴 in 过去的一年.
• 43% of dating college women report experiencing violent and abusive dating behaviors, including physical, sexual, digital, verbal, or other controlling abuse.

来源: 全国家庭暴力热线

任何人都可能是施虐者. The majority are not violent outside the home, and 90% don't 有犯罪记录.

施虐者的特征

• Denies the existence or minimizes the seriousness of the violence and its effect on 受害者和其他家庭成员.
• Objectifies the victim and often sees them as their property or sexual objects.
• Has low self-esteem and feels powerless and ineffective in the world.
  • They may appear successful, but internally, they feel inadequate.
• Externalizes the causes of their behavior.
  • They blame their violence on circumstances such as stress, their partner's behavior, a "bad day," on alcohol, drugs, or other factors.
• May be pleasant and charming between periods of violence and is often seen as a "nice person" to others outside the relationship. 

警告标志

• 极端的嫉妒
• 占有欲
• 不可预知性
• 坏脾气
• 虐待动物
• 言语虐待
• 极度控制行为
• Antiquated beliefs about roles of women and men in relationships
• Forced sex or disregard of their partner's unwillingness to have sex
• Sabotage of birth control methods or refusal to honor agreed upon methods
• Blaming the victim for anything bad that happens
• Sabotage or obstruction of the victim's ability to work or attend school
• 控制所有的财务
• 滥用 of other family members, children or pets
• Accusations of the victim flirting with others or having an affair
• Control of what the victim wears and how they act
• Demeaning the victim either privately or publicly
• Embarrassment or humiliation of the victim in front of others
• 在工作中骚扰受害者

来源: National Coalition Against 家庭暴力

You can help victims of domestic violence by intervening in a safe manner, by offering assistance, and by generally working to create a culture of respect. 

• 旁观者基础知识 (不再)
• 朋友 & 家庭:如何帮助 (National Sexual Violence Resource Center)
• 支持他人 (全国家庭暴力热线)

国家资源

• 全国家庭暴力热线 (英文及Español)
• 全国性侵犯热线 (英文及Español)
• 爱就是尊重 (英文及Español)

社区资源

• 德州东南部家庭服务中心